Husband Clothes

Yesterday, my friend saw the post about my husband’s hanger trick, and suddenly it hit me that I never told her about it. When she mentioned the hanger, I had a flashback to the time period when she and I met. At that time, life was much too serious to ever talk or think about the trivial stuff I do now–hangers, wrinkled clothing, chipped teeth–oh, sorry, I did talk about chipped teeth, as we had this problem even then…So, some people have much more serious difficulties to deal with. I realize this, since I was one of them.

Anyway, it kind of made me sad thinking about people having a really hard time in marriage. …I don’t have much advice (not that you’d want it anyway, after reading about what I put up with). BUT, I can tell you two things that helped me gain some understanding that made the rocky times a little easier:

1) The book “What Could He Be Thinking?” by Michael Gurian–he is a psychologist who did decades of research on men’s brains. He describes the stages during marriage and really grounded info about men and how they operate in a marriage. It’s NOT a book that makes excuses–it just tells what and why. Very, very, very helpful. For me, it really helped me understand how a man’s job can influence his behavior and why my husband acted so mean all the time.

2) Movies like “Cinderella Man” (misleading title–this is about a strong, wonderful man who in no way acts like Cinderella). When I had a hard time, my friends were all happy, had plenty of money, and their husbands were so nice to them. Movies reminded me that some people have it worse than me. The BEST one of all time–”Cinderella Man” with Russel Crowe. Hard times like crazy, but also strength of the soul. On a lighter note, “Click” with Adam Sandler–teaches you not to hurry too much, even in times of stress.

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