I think that girl sounds like a stereotypical narcissist. That is a person who basically think people are wrong when they don’t want to do everything to meet his/her needs, and it’s impossible

Obviously, I’m just going by your blog comment–you could also be the narcissist turning it all around on us! But for me, these things signal a narcissist: 1) you always feel like it’s your fault and 2) you can NEVER get closure and 3) you’re afraid to bring things up because the narcissist will feel completely shocked at your accusations (even though everyone else seems to think your points are logical and normal).

I’m no expert. I have had a “friend” and unfortunately an in-law who are narcissists. I read up on the internet about that type, and it made me feel much better. Hopefully you’ll get some closure. It doesn’t sound like your fault, for whatever that’s worth:)

Your above explanations make sense. But is there a possibility that a girlfriend can be mean because she’s in the wrong?

I recently had to break up with a girl I loved because no matter what I did for her, she treated me like crap, and never really did anything for me. She acted like she was doing me a favor just by virtue of being my girlfriend. We’re both adults and should’ve been able to have an adult relationship, but in her mind a relationship is just the boyfriend’s duty to convince her to stay with him everyday; obviously my effort and my patience drained quickly. She never even stayed at my apartment because she never felt like commuting (its a 15 minute subway ride), so I did, almost everyday. Obviously one of my worst mistakes was being too amicable to her demands.

If I didn’t give her all she wanted all the time, she fed me the worst verbal and emotional abuse imaginable. After even the shortest fight, she’d hang out with other guys to infuriate me, though she never cheated. Obviously we stopped being friends months before I broke it off, and our physical relationship ended about 2 months before. We never had closure because I was never able to say anything to her. I was never able to express what I felt if it would upset her because she was so short fused.

Now I’m worried all of this may have been my fault. Please dispel my fear and reassure me that there’s plenty of bad apples out there and I just happened to pick one.

Thank you! Yes, the creating work theme is highly under-discussed, don’t you think? I would discuss it with my husband, except that we have the added issue of…work that he does usually causing additional problems.

Oh, but that’s a topic for another day. Thank you for visiting, and I hope your guy creates minimal work for you this whole, entire spring:)

–Holly Kay