Husband Clothes

I need to start this post by saying that my husband is one of the most WARM and LOVING fathers ever. He’s extremely attentive and dedicated to our boys. When he spends long weeks at work, he insists on spending whole weekends with the boys. I’m always welcome to go along of course, but whether I do or don’t, he insists on taking the boys out from morning till night and spending every waking moment with them. He doesn’t need a break from them. He doesn’t get bored and need to do something else. Being with his boys is fun for him. There is nothing more important to him on earth.

So, his thoughts and feelings on being a father definitely never needed any improvement. However, there are also fathering skills. These have needed quite a bit of improvement and have caused a few issues, I’m tempted even to say serious ones, though now they are resolved.

For a long time, my husband didn’t believe in saying “no” to children. He felt it was better to “trick” the child into doing what you want them to. This alone almost lead to divorce because when I DID say no, I’d get constant dirty looks from both husband and son, and my husband would shake his head and stuff like this. Way too annoying to put up with.

He also wants to overindulge the kids. Toys and candy. He would have no problem giving them two to three toys and two to three huge desserts every single day. I think this might be a hero complex of some kind. I don’t know what it is, except that it can get really irritating for me.

Thankfully, we’ve evolved and changed. Well, I guess I should say my husband has evolved and changed. I started ready to compromise on our child-rearing practices. He wasn’t. He had his own ideas of how things should be (without having consulted a single soul). How did this get resolved? Well, my husband had to work out of town for 6 months and was amazed at the positive changes in our son when he returned. My son was much happier and healthier due to consistency, reasonable boundaries, and having learned the meaning of “no” when necessary. It was obvious that our son was doing very well.

Now my husband even gives our sons time outs when they’re bad! I’ll always be the stricter parent, but that’s ok. We agree enough to be really consistent with our children, and it shows in their confidence, behavior, and habits. Not to toot our own horn or anything…I don’t often talk about my boys on this blog (as I have a whole ‘nother blog for that), but they are GREAT kids, and I am extremely proud of them!

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