Chatting about how men and women seeing differently, an elderly Japanese friend once told me that her husband’s way of seeing things was even stranger than that of most men.

She was in the next room while he was looking for something that was quite visible in the front of a drawer, on the right-hand side and he kept complaining to her that it wasn’t there. She kept calling out to him where it was, and he kept insisting it wasn’t there. Finally, in exasperation, she got up (haven’t we all been there?) and stomped over to point the object out to him, right where it should be.

He said, “Well, I was picturing it as if I were sitting inside the drawer and looking out!”

I swear, this story is all true, except for the stomping part. I projected that part from what I would have done. She, being a very genteel lady, merely walked.

What a sweet story (and also funny) about “SMS”!!! You actually have an abbreviation for the item you most commonly lose! So, the whole family supports your difficulty with the male vision thing…So adorable.

My family needs an abbreviation too. I think it will be SGSL “Stop Giving Me Suspicious Looks.” When MY husband can’t find things, he immediately suspects that I have taken them. It doesn’t matter what the object is–his earphones, for example, if he can’t find them, I get accused of taking them. (And of course, they are always in front of his face, I just have to point them out.)

Thank you for the warm wishes!!!

When I’m looking for something in a drawer, I’m often conscious of the possibility that I’m staring right at the thing and not recognizing it. Weird. And I can’t ever recognize people in crowds.

So mostly I keep stuff in the same spot. Except my glasses, which I take off all the time. “SMS” means “seen my specs?” in my house.

Congratulations on the new baby – hope all goes well!