How to Find a Husband
How to find a husband…Or better–how to find the right husband. This was my main question for several years after college. I remember dating. I liked it (okay, loved it), except when I was on a date with a mean guy, charmer type, user, cheapskate, compulsive liar, drug addict, superficial bragger, or another loser…Finding the perfect partner seemed impossible, and at some point, I remember thinking it was never going to happen. If I’d known how great Matchmaker.com is for helping ladies find a good man to marry, I would have happily signed up! (I say that because this site is for marriage-minded people like I was, not players just looking for the next fun date.)
It’s so funny looking back. I remember wondering a thousand times “Am I choosing the right person?” I wondered what I’d do if he changed. Changed into what? I don’t know. He was so nice—I just remember thinking “maybe he’s really an alcoholic or psycho, and it’ll all come out after we’re married.” Or, wouldn’t it hurt if he were to be really nice for many years, and then suddenly cheat on me and leave me for another woman?
Of course, when you find your partner, you take a leap of faith. So many times I tried to figure out how to verify that I was making the right decision. But it was fruitless. Only time would tell. And I guess, still now, 10 years later, the same rule stands. However, these are the things I saw in my husband then, and these are the things I still love him for now:
• Strong
• Kindness
• Steadfastness
• Dependability
• Grounded
• Unaffected by societal pressures
• Loving father
• Ambitious (for success, not money)
• Brave
That said, oh boy, does my husband ever have his faults! Me too, of course. But…there are so many people in the world looking for a little attention, tenderness, and company. There are others who have completely given up on love. That makes me so sad. The upside is that even giving up on love and romance doesn’t prevent it from sweeping you off your feet when Mr. Right walks into your life!
I wouldn’t trade my husband for the world—not for Hot Dad, Adam Lambert, Sexy Boss, heck, not even Clive Owen. (You know who that is, right? If you don’t, be advised that you’re missing out on some very serious hotness.) And for all of those young ladies out there who are sad and who have given up on love, I can only say that if I managed to figure out how to find a good husband, I really believe you will too.
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First of all, I DO know who Clive Owen is. The tragedy is that I DO NOT know him “better”. Second of all, I did not like dating. Know why? It was in Los Angeles. Guys in L.A. aren’t looking for regular women. Oh, they’ll date them. Even for five years! But the whole time one eye (usually the left) is looking out of the corner for something better. OR they keep hoping that Giselle Bundchen will break down in front of their place and ask to use their phone because she’s not getting cell reception and then…SCORE! Know why else? Cuz it’s L.A. baby. Supermodels like Giselle actually drive around here. And, according to deluded minds of L.A. guys, they might break down and might need help and might end up liking regular guys. Luckily, I found Mr. Right. Actually, I call him Mr. Perfekt. But so many of my women friends have never married. OR had to travel to France or Brazil where men don’t have commitment issues – to find their spouses. I kid you not.
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Hi Mammakaze! I tried to comment on your blog, but I couldn’t log in…Wordpress sometimes does that to me. It has something to do with my son having a blog he started on my computer and sometimes Wordpress thinks I’m him but won’t let either of us log in!
Anyway, it sounds like dating in LA is worse than dating in the DC area…Now that is quite a feat!
Rats! I HATE when I hear things like that. That technical stuff makes me crazy!
Hopefully at some point you’ll be able to get through. I LOVE the comments. My readers seem to shy away from them. I’m trying to encourage it more!
Love your site!
This is one post I hope your husband reads. YES!
Awesome post! I knew all these things about your husband from your other posts. Even though your make fun of him (just kinda – there is always a sweetness in it) you can hear the respect and the love coming through – how nice! I bet he is just as grateful to have you.
Hey Holly~
I was looking for some smart ass remark ideas to leave a friend of mine about denial and your blog came up on the google search. I will admit I got side tracked and spent a good 15 minutes reading through some of your blogs. They made me laugh….not all of them, but the funny ones. ^_^
I was wondering if you had an email address I could write to. I had a couple thoughts I wanted to share with you, but didnt want to share them necessarily with the whole world. ^_^
~Jaime Brewer
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Thanks for the post. It is actually uplifting, not that I was planning on giving up, but incase I ever do I now know that I won’t! Trying to Start Love seems impossible sometimes, but I know that I don’t necessarily have to go out looking for someone. That someone could already be in my life or someday will walk into it.